If you know the path you want to take in life, the means to accomplish that goal, and know the secret to work/life balance... then this post is not for you. If you wonder why you can't seem to set a tangible goal or even visualize what exactly it is you want to do when you "grow up" (whatever that means)... then I hope this helps.
After three years of college, five majors, and still an undecided career path, I have truly understood what it is like to feel like the world will come to an end if I don't make up my mind and fast. But as of late, I have come to terms with some crucial facts about life, and one of them is arguably the most important of all: it's OK if you don't know what you're doing.
In true "if I knew then what I know now" fashion, here are 5 important things to remember for anyone struggling with uncertainty that is accompanied by mental breakdowns, all-nighters, and anxiety.
1. You just have to show up.
There is an old adage that says, "Life is like gym class. You get an F if you don't show up, but you get at least a B if you do."
That couldn't be more true.
When you are in that stage of life when you just have no clue - you don't know why you're doing what you're doing or if it's preparing you for anything - just show up. Wake up, live life, and go through the motions for a while. Eventually, things will take a turn; it might be tomorrow, it might be next year, but if you don't show up you're going to miss out and that would be a travesty.
2. Life has a crush on you.
Remember when you were in elementary school and you were madly in love with that kid in your class? Yeah, me either...
But really, you had a mad crush on them!
When you "liked" someone at that age, you were mean to them to let them know how you felt. Looking back, that was a silly way to approach things, but that's the way the cookie crumbled.
Well, life is still in elementary school and just because life is mean to you sometimes that doesn't mean that it doesn't have a crush on you, in fact, it's quite the opposite - it means life is madly in love with you!
So roll with the punches and know that the mishaps and hiccups are life's way of telling you how awesome you really are.
3. The world is your oyster.
When you start putting your dreams in a box to fit a certain mold, you limit yourself. Not knowing exactly what it is you want to do allows you to try as many new things as you want until you find what it is that you love. There is a world out there full of off-the-wall career paths that are much more exciting than the 9-5 office life, you just have to explore a bit.
4. Everyday is an adventure.
"I am who I am today because of the choices I made yesterday." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Every adventure is preparing you for something, even if you aren't quite sure of what that something is yet. Sometimes when days just seem pointless and unproductive, it is setting you up for what's next. You will look back on your life and know that each day was integral for your life and where you are headed.
Choose to make today, and everyday, an important, meaningful adventure.
5. Find inspiration in each and every day.
Personally, I am a Kid President fanatic because he always challenges me to see the world differently and live better with each passing day.
Whatever it may be, find what inspires you - it might be something new everyday or it might be a quote that really gets you through a month. If its inspiring you and making you better, hold on to it. I have found that people live better when their lives are inspired. And when you don't know what's next in life, at least you'll have a positive outlook to get you through!
So don't worry that you don't know what exactly you're doing, because sometimes all you can do is sit back and make the world more awesome.
"The time to be awesome is now." - Kid President
The truth of the matter is, you might think you know what you want to do, and maybe if you're lucky, you will stick to that path. But more often than not, you will change your mind and change it again. So make plans to not make plans and let life happen.
Sending you good and positive vibes.